My perfectly
imperfect princess


Sometimes you make me want to
pull out my hair; scream and yell
just get up and walk out
but I never do.
Count to ten.
Sometimes you're naughty and rude
you're defiant and stubborn
you still act like a baby
some days I can’t take that.
Count again.
Sometimes I get so sick and tired
of hospitals and specialists and tests
what did I do to deserve this life?
breathe in, breath out;
Count to ten.
Sometimes you frustrate and anger me
and you drive me to despair
there are days I wish I didn't care
but I can’t turn off love.
Count again
Sometimes I get so very mad
about things beyond your control
please listen! Please try! Please stop.
Tears roll down my face.
Count to ten.
So you may not be the world's idea
of 'perfect' or even 'normal'
but who define what that is anyway
and does it really matter?
You're my rainbow after the storm
my sweet and innocent princess
with a smile that melts my heart
and a laugh that brightens my world
So what did I do to deserve you?
My perfectly imperfect princess
I know I’m not punished but blessed
and I’m so glad you're mine for a while.


© Kimberlee Francis

“A gender-equal society would be one where the word ‘gender’ does not exist: where everyone can be themselves.”*

I’ve always been aware of gender conditioning and actively tried to combat any lingering prejudices or stereotypes in my own parenting, even down to encouraging dolls with my boys when they were little. It’s great to read people writing about gender issues they’re experiencing with their kids. For too long these subjects have been discouraged or silenced. I’d love to publish some more creative writing on this topic, especially if you are struggling with a child who actively tries to move away from gender normative preferences. A society where everyone can be themselves thanks Gloria for those aspirational words.

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* Gloria Steinem