September 2017

My Life -
Dawn to Dusk
(and then some...)

Go and get yourself dressed.
You’re a big boy now.
No, you can’t have a biscuit before breakfast.
It’s not Saturday, Dad’s got to go to work today.
No it’s not Kindy day either.
Can you help set the table?
Don’t talk with your mouth full.
Sit down both of you.
Don’t poke the baby.
Get out of the fridge.
And stay out of the pantry too.
I’ll get you a drink in a minute.
There’s none left.
Because you two drank it all.
Put that back.
Don’t do that, it will break.
Pick up that.
Don’t leave toys right there, it’s dangerous.
Come back here.
Put your pants back on.
You can’t go out like that.
Because people will look at us funny.
Want to go to the toilet?
Right, hop in.
Put your belt on.
Don’t annoy your brother.
He had it first.
Don’t do that to her.
Hold onto the pram.
You’ve got your shoes on the wrong feet.
That’s better.
Yes, you’re being a good boy.
Left, right, watch out for your feet.
Yes, you’re still being a good boy.
Maybe.
We’ll ask Dad.
No.
We’ll go later.
Hop in.
Can you take baby’s hat off for me please?
Thanks.
Poo, your feet smell!
Belts on?
No, not today.
I said we’ll go later.
Sit down both of you.
Eat your lunch.
Don’t pull faces at your brother.
Sit down!
Move your glass, it’s too close to the edge of the table.
What do you mean, “All finished”? You’ve hardly started.

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You’ve got five minutes till nap time.
Where’s your brother’s bear and blanket?
Have a good sleep.
Don’t throw your clothes out of your drawers.
I said, “No”
Pick them up, now.
Thank you.
Now get back into bed.
No, you just had lunch.

Can you go and check the mailbox for me please?
Thankyou.
Good boy.
No, just bills.
People want our money.
No, we can’t have chips for dinner again tonight.
Yes, it’s Kindy day tomorrow.
Yes, Matthew will be there.
I don’t know.
Ask Dad.
Right, five minutes till bath time.
Clothes off.
Bring them here.
No screaming.
Don’t throw water out of the bath.
Don’t touch his ‘thingy’.
I know you were just washing it, but don’t touch it.
It’s good to smell nice.
Wash your own hair, I’ll do his.
Who’s getting out first?
Quick, we haven’t got all day.
Because you’ll get cold.
You dress yourself.
Play nicely, while I make dinner.
I said nicely.
Get off him.
Don’t ever do that again.
Stop squealing.
Get out from under my feet.
Get out of the pantry too.
No food before dinner.
Go and play with your brother in the lounge.
Don’t do that.
Here’s some paper and a pen.
Draw me a picture.
Get out of baby’s chair
You’re too big.
Leave her alone.
Go and watch the video.
No, it’s not Daddy on the phone.
No, it’s not Matthew’s mum either.
Dinner in five minutes.
Wash your hands.
Okay, I’ll come and help you in a minute.
Just try it.
Don’t say, “Yuk”.
It tastes better than it looks.

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See?
Good boy.
Move your drink.
Wait, clean hands first.
We haven’t got any icecream.
Now you may leave the table.
You know the rules.
Stay out of the pantry.
And the fridge.
You just finished dinner.
You can have a biscuit before bed.
Don’t touch.
Pick up your toys.
Leave your sister alone.
You can have another one if you’re really that hungry.
Shut the fridge.
Pull your pyjama pants up.
Because you’ll trip over.
Yes, you will.
See?
Come here for a hug.
Yes, I love you.
And you.
And you, my sweet girl.
Five minutes before bed, you two.
No, baby can’t sleep with you.
She’s got her own bed.
I’ll just put her into bed, and then we’ll clean your teeth okay?
Go and wait in the bathroom.
No the blue one is your brother’s.
Not that much toothpaste.
Give it to me please.
You’re not finished.
Come here.
You, off to bed, and I’ll be in to read to you in a minute.

That was a nice book.
Not that one again.
1 seal, 2 cows, 3 fish, 4 lollipops, 5 dogs, 6 flowers, 7 blocks, 8 horses, 9 dolls, 10 cars.
We’ll read it again tomorrow.
Let’s say our prayers.
Goodnight.
Stay in bed.
I said stay.
Not this book again.
Because we read it last night, and the night before, and the night before that.
That’s why.
Let’s read this one.
That’s a good story eh?
Okay, I like that one too.
Alright and that one.
Prayers time.
No, granddad doesn’t have a horse.
I’m quite sure about that.
Yes, it’s Kindy day tomorrow.
Yes, Matthew will be there.

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Good night love.
All right.
Off you go.
Yes, I’ll wait and tuck you in.
All better?
Into bed.
I don’t know where Teddy is.
Look under your pillow.
There he is.
Lie down.
Goodnight.

 

© Victoria Purdie
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“A gender-equal society would be one where the word ‘gender’ does not exist: where everyone can be themselves.”*

I’ve always been aware of gender conditioning and actively tried to combat any lingering prejudices or stereotypes in my own parenting, even down to encouraging dolls with my boys when they were little. It’s great to read people writing about gender issues they’re experiencing with their kids. For too long these subjects have been discouraged or silenced. I’d love to publish some more creative writing on this topic, especially if you are struggling with a child who actively tries to move away from gender normative preferences. A society where everyone can be themselves thanks Gloria for those aspirational words.

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* Gloria Steinem