
Grandma bought the tricycle
shiny red and yellow
the thrill of independence
your feet off the ground
never thinking to paste
a new logo on
even after the fuss you made
of cutting and pasting two
Holden lions
onto your ride-on big red car
that you wore out one camping trip.
It sat beside the green wheelie-bin
on its remaining three wheels, for months
before it finally went out.
Remember the grazes and shallow cuts
on your elbow and knees
that first time you fell off;
salty streaks caressing your cheeks
you lay on the gravel, curled in your tantrum pose.
Now, you ride it in figure eights
on the fat decking, helmet strapped on tight.
The bucket at the back is rarely empty;
transporting cars, beloved bunny;
milk cup – half full; dregs from a Clix pack
or a Fuji red – minus two bites.
Can’t decide
whether to ride it
or play with something different,
sit atop playing your guitar,
taking turns to use feet and fingers,
sometimes singing.
Soon, you’ll want to upgrade
and the trike will keep the garden company,
like Cinderella’s coach after midnight.
No doubt we’ll give in – or Grandma will –
accept that it was merely the precursor to a bicycle.
“My patience, resolutions and beliefs are tested to the limits – sometimes daily.”*
Right at this moment one of my challenges is the constant, tuneless whistling from my elder son. When my boys were babies it was getting them to sleep or trying to figure out why they were crying. On any given day now, it might be squabbling, fighting, teasing, screaming, shouting or rudeness. Who’d be a parent? We might well question ourselves after the event, but we can’t very well put them back! Just how we find those inner resources, how we constantly demand more of ourselves, how we keep marching up that hill with a smile on our face and gladness in our heart at the sight of our ‘babies’ is one of life’s mysteries.
* © from Being Mummy by Anne‑marie Taplin published April 2007